“You do you girl.”

{you do you girl.}

I’ve been convicted by this phrase lately. I don’t want to raise a “you do you, girl” daughter.

I’ve heard this used So many times and have been guilty of using it myself. But, recently I’ve realized.. “you do you” in its intended meaning- “don’t care what any one thinks girl go for it.” So for that I say yes, don’t care if others are watching. Dance babydoll. Embrace it all.

But, the reality? Most of the time: It’s used in the context of: Put self first. You do you. Cause I sure as heck will do me.

When Jesus says, “do what is right and holy in my sight.”, “do what I have command and love one another.”

Then is “you do you” not an excuse just to say I’ll just be here trying to advance “I” and not Him? You do what you need to do for self, and so will I. When shouldn’t we tell our sisters in Christ to seek His face in all things? So friends FFF won’t tell you to do you, but to seek first the kingdom of righteousness. In all things give him glory.

It’s by the grace of God we have the ability to move in the first place, right?

I started reading on what God’s word says on the matter:


1 John 3:18- Dear children, let’s not merely say we love each other; let’s show the truth by our actions.


Philippians 2:3- Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves.


John 15: 12-13- My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you. Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.


I want to raise JN not to look out for self alone, but live and breath in God’s backwards economy.

Where widows and orphans get a seat at the head of the table.

Where we put self behind others. We let others go first when at all possible.

Where we don’t always have to be right, but to show love.

Where I don’t tell others to do the thing, but I help them get there at the same time as me.

In a “you do you girl” world I hope to raise a daughter that doesn’t use “you do you” to really mean “I’ll take care of me.”

I want to raise take care of those that can’t care for themselves kids.

Put others first —> and in doing so others see Christ’s love. 🤍🤍🤍

You in ladies?

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